This is a picture of my son Olin after a six hour flight. Before we enlisted Meaghan’s help, I couldn’t even take him down the street to buy groceries without a meltdown.
My son was chronically overtired. I didn’t read enough about infant sleep before he was born because I felt overwhelmed by the harsh opinions, bias and conflicting information I found online. I didn’t know what books to trust. I was flying by the seat of my pants, telling myself that this is supposed to be hard, because that’s what everyone says. Hard was 1-2 hours of bouncing to get him to sleep every night, wake-ups every 40 minutes until midnight, feed, 3-4 hours of sleep, feed, maybe go back to sleep (maybe not). Hard was 1-3 hours of trying anything and everything to get him to go down for a nap during the day. All of this accompanied by inconsolable crying. At a certain point, I realized that “helping” him get to sleep wasn’t helping him at all anymore. He was miserable despite all of my attempts to console him. He was miserable at bedtime, miserable at nap time and miserable while he was awake.
After reading ScienceofMom’s sensitively written, evidence-based series on infant sleep, I felt confident that sleep training was right for us. But I knew that I didn’t want to go it alone. If I was going to be letting him cry, I needed the confidence provided by having an expert behind me for support. Thanks to Meaghan’s clear plan and above-and-beyond support, I now have a son who sleeps 11-12 hours a night in his own room after his routine. We put him down in his crib, tell him it’s time to go to sleep and he does. He goes down for naps after a similar (but shorter) routine and sleeps for 1-2 hours, 3 times per day.
Until we really sorted out his sleep problems, my husband and I didn’t realize how chronically overtired he was and how much it was affecting him daily. A lot of people think about sleep training in terms of how it helps the parents (and believe me, it does, and that is also very important) but the changes I’ve seen in my son since this all began have been nothing short of inspirational. Now that he’s getting enough sleep, he is a genuinely happy baby, full of smiles and giggles. I no longer feel trapped in our apartment, which means we get to go out and do a lot more fun stuff together!
Without Meaghan’s guidance, our lives would be very different today. If you make one purchase to help your baby sleep, make it with Meaghan. Your well-rested baby will thank you!